"Are you changing your last name this year?"
Our first and second year of marriage I said no, I wanted to finish my Chartered Accountancy in my maiden name.
The 3rd and 4th year I said no, I had too many clients that knew me by my maiden name.
The fifth year I said I would, once we got settled into our new city...and then I got pregnant and life just got busy again. It's tough work changing ALL your ID you know.
Every year after that something has happened to suggest that taking his name may be easier on me...for example:
- The customs dude at Las Vegas Airport asking Tim HOW ON EARTH I could NOT have my wife take his name??
- The ER nurse at Childrens asking if I was a single mom since Cole has a different last name
- The blockbuster video rental dude who will not let me use Tim's card to rent movies, even though we have the same address
- The phone calls I get before every wedding asking whether I want to be listed by my maiden name or married name on the invite and place setting
I like my name...just as it is. I'm not saying I don't like Tim's name, our kids all have his name. It's a great name!
Maybe I simply like the thought of holding onto something I was born with. Maybe I'm being stubborn, selfish, non-traditional.
Hyphens, combining names, moving my last name into my middle name are not options for me. All or nothing.
Maybe it's like the couples who never marry because they think the label of "marriage" will ultimately break them apart? We are happily married 10 years now....would a simple "name change" really make our marriage better? Would Tim realize he is officially "stuck" with me if I finally did the "honorable" deed?
I've know women to jump at the chance to change their name, others who eventually change theirs, and those, who see it just like me..
Given the chance, would you still change yours?