When I found out I was having twins, I signed up for a multiples society. Everyone said I HAD to register with this particular society...so I agreed....I really only wanted the coupons and first dibs on any "sales" of 2nd hand gear.
Then I started getting newsletters, invites on facebook for "multiples" outings, support group info etc..
Not my cup of tea. Just because I have 2 at once does not mean I need to surround them with another 100 sets of multiples. Maybe because they are fraternal and look nothing alike, I truly see them as individuals, separate personalities, and I rarely ever dress them the same. I had twins, I did not give birth to something that requires a "society".
So I wonder, do many twin parents find comfort in these groups. Are many of them first time parents? I never had anyone suggest I become a member of a first time parent society? If ever I needed a support group it would have been with baby #1. If ever I needed outings, connection with other moms, it would have been when I only had one child that I could easily tote around.
Then a few weeks ago we were stopped, and a lady asked Tim if he was a "multiple" dad. I stood back and observed as I'm usually the one being stopped, this was all new for Tim.
Tim looked at her confused??? She pointed to the twins....A "multiple" dad!!! I'm a twin mom she said...grinning ear to ear....and then she waited....like she was waiting for fireworks to begin.....for a jumping and hugging fest? Whatever she was waiting for...she was not getting it from Tim.
Uh, yeah they're twins..and he (pointing to Cole) is 5...why?
The poor woman looked as though we had burst her twin bubble...
And this is why we are not renewing our membership to the multiples society....we are a family with 3 kids, 2 of which happen to share a birthday. I'd like to think that I was simply lucky enough to have 3 kids with only 2 pregnancies. We get stopped enough, pointed to enough, and whispered about enough in public....it doesn't phase us...stare away...
I just wanted to be a mom again, and Tim just wanted to be a dad again, joining the multiples society only labels us...
Label us simply....a family